Well I’ve been offered a position and I’m about to make the move forward, into adult hood and paying taxes again! I am employed by ATX-BMW. They basically provide high scale customer service to BMW clients through a call center. My foot got into the door through my French fluency, since there are French speaking Canadian clients with BMW. I think it’s going to be just lovely, judging from the kindness of the HR Manager, seeing the location and how it’s all run. I’m excited for the challenge of a 6 week training, to lead me into making a difference and helping people out, and to do this along side people that are just as positive and happy to reach the same goal.

For the first time in a long time, I’m sitting at my computer (that works, thanks to Tyson for fixing the keyboard that has been broken since!), with unlimited online access (we paid in relation to how much time we used in Cameroon), at what I call “home” for the time-being, in Texas… and this seems like an all too ordinary, lame and unexciting in comparison to the past two years of blogs filled with inspiration, a process of learning, aggravation, gratification and love that I received from my home in Cameroon. I just finished reading Angel’s blog entries too (Check out his experiences and entries at: http://goingon27.wordpress.com/), as he COS’d and finds himself now in New Jersey. What a strange whirl of feelings you get when you’re texting once again with PCVs all around the country- except this time, texts are unlimited, and you know that you would have to take a plane to see some of them again. We will remain connected through what now feels like a dream. As my postmate, Tim Hartman, said it, “I don’t feel any reverse culture shock but it sure feels like we’ve been through a reverse time machine!”

We went to Philippines’ top-rated game show! There were beautiful dancers, performers and silly games. Even though most of it was in Tagalong, it was a fantastic time! I did the giling giling (a dance) and was chosen to play Hip hip horay! Sadly, I only made it to the top 6 or so. But I got some free whitening products! Haha. Isiak sang DURING the actualy show, with the host Willie. Willie had seen Isiak’s video on richieartwork on youtube, and that’s how we got in actually. It was really cool. He did an amazing job. Now we can’t leave the house without someone recognizing the big, black guy who sings Tagalong on Wowowee!

We’ve touched down on Manila, where we are staying with Tita Jenny and Tito Fernando, and their daughter Audrey. They live in a beautiful two story house, that’s not huge but doesn’t feel small iether, fenced in within a gate, yet again gated as the community of Green Park village. If that doesn’t keep us safe, the 8 dogs will! I realize how unshocked I will be of things for the rest of my life- I’m disappointed on some level.. the crazy driving, cheap food, hand-holding, cold showers, big avacados, and the way people walk across traffic without a care in the world. But there are a few differences, ofcourse there are- like the polite way that nationals ask for things, their shy-ness.

“When the people tell you something, this is a message of God. And what they say you are, God says you are.”
-Priest Michel, Founder of Kentaja Association

Before I completed my service, I was able to finish my last project, along with the great team of people that did it with me. After meeting the wonderful Priest Michel Djaba, I could feel how much he cared for every orphan within Kentaja Association, the one he founded to house abandoned children in three different centers in Cameroon. It was this feeling that motivated me to help his association whatever way I could, and soon enough, I was fundraising for a water well in Bandzuidjong. I fell upon all the right people from that point on, from Aladji Feukep who installed the well, to Angel who is an excellent project coordinator, down to the generous contributions from strangers that otherwise would have made the completion of the well possible.

The ceremony was amazing (see the photos a few blog posts back). I have never had so much fun drinking water, nor have I ever felt that someone was more joyous and thankful about anything. My Bangou family even came in numbers to support me. And because the people of Bandzuidjong honored me so much for helping them with the well, they gave me a title – Mefeu Napseu (“Queen that Arranges Things”). I got to wear everything traditionally bamileke: a top, a skirt made of traditional Bamileke fabric, a hat that only notables can wear, and an especially unique bag made with magistrate monkey hair. The chief’s representative (the actual chief is 15 and was probably still in school when we were inaugurating the well) let me sit in his chair and take photos with him, which is a big honor. I was given several peace trees (which symbolize peace), some peanuts to share with my village (sharing the peanuts are symbolic too), and a chicken (chickens are expensive and given to important, respected people). I even was given a special cup that I could now drink out of along-side my notable friends. Ofcourse, there was then dancing, great food, and drinking. I already knew that I had made a difference, but to be initiated into this village as a queen was honorable. Most of all, what I really took away from this ceremony was a benediction that I will carry with me for the rest of my life. One Bandzuidjong told me, “We are very poor, so there is not much we can give you. But you will always have the prayers of this village.” This is much more than I could ask for, and more gratifying that I ever thought it could be. I want to arrange more things!!!

I feel as if a fast-forward button on my life was pushed, and now I find myself in this crazy, new, fast-paced and lovely world called the USA. I could tell you all about my last few weeks, sad goodbyes, the fear of leaving and surviving without piment pepper for a year, and my breakdown in the plane that so much resembled the the one I had leaving Texas just 2 years ago, but I don’t know what I can say other than it was all bittersweet and surreal. I tried my best not to complicate but instead enjoy my last moments there…and I think I did an okay job at it. But as Angel said, a small piece of us will stay in Cameroon, and a part of me is definitely still there. Being back to this place that hasn’t changed much with the exception of technology taking over more people’s lives, I feel like a different person stepping into a new chapter. My life perspective has changed completely, and so have I. I proudly completed my two years’ of doing the absolute best work that I was capable of, I became a mother, a project coordinator, a firm believer in faith, and I became a difference in someone else’s life. I’m only scared that the next chapter won’t be able to compete with that, but at least I know more about who I am and I know what my priorities are. I want to continue to make a difference!

Should I continue this blog? I thought about it, wondering if it would really be all that interesting to continue describing a life that everyone knows about. So maybe it won’t be as interesting as it was before… no more stories about becoming a queen or killing chickens. I will probably write less. But I want to invite you to the next chapter, in my continuation of working toward that same idea of peace. I do have a few ideas about how I’m going to do that… 🙂

Following are a series of photos I have taken of Smith, my homonyme baby. He is getting bigger and bigger by the day, eating and sleeping and eating! The only one with his eyes open I look bad in, haha. He doesn’t like the flash. There is a picture of me and my hands in holding a snot-like sauce; that is ncuit, a dish that is made most often for women that just gave birth. It apparently has 14 different condiments and work well to clean the stomach. This is my victory photo, after finally really learning how to cut it and eat! If you aren’t careful, you can end up pouring it all out, or swallowing it all at once!

It was just 8 months ago that Ernest and I shared a beer over the news that his wife, Unity, was pregnant, with who he had decided would be my namesake. “A child is the biggest gift I can give you.” he honored me as his best friend. Then he explained, “When you give a child the name of someone, it is with the hope that the child will have some of the characteristics of that person. You don’t just name a child after anyone.” Since that day, I have taken my namesake very seriously. I decided that I wanted to be involved in every step of the way. After learning so much about togetherness and family, I figured that I should also learn all about how to make a family too. I went to Unity’s doctor appointments with her so often that the doctor would give me updates and let me listen to the heart beat. We looked at the ultrasound together, showing us that he would be a boy. From then on, he was known as SMITH FONDJA TERRELL. I became obsessed with touching her belly and feeling the numerous kicks (like me, he likes to dance).

The day she started having contractions, she swore that Smith was kicking at the bottom of her uterus and way just wasn’t being made for him. It had been 9 months and three days of the world awaiting him, so I was anxious and more than willing to take her to the hospital to check it out. The doctor forbid her to go home, as she was 3 cm dialated. I panicked a little inside. I thought it might go faster, like in the films, so I did not know that there would be another TEN hours of pain and suffereing before Smith made his entrance! I called my mom and texted friends. I walked around the hospital with Unity during her contractions, squatting down with her as they came (Mom told me that would help advance the labor). I learned that sugar was supposed to help the process along too, and as long as Unity was crying “I want to be free”, it was my priority. I forced her to eat cookies and down a cup of sugar water. As her last meal, what she really wanted was pork meat, like her usual craving was… that would be in a bed pan just a few hours later.

When her contractions became worse, her sister, having already had 7 births and unimpressed, was sleeping. But all I could do was watch or pray for the birth to be done and over with. She grabbed on to walls and, prayed herself and made some of the most painful sounds I had ever heard. There were times it was as if she was possessed, eyes rolling into the back of her head, inconscient of the curtains she was pulling at or the her imbalance. She moved her body in whatever way possible to make the contraction easier. Two things kept coming to mind: “It is amazing the way she is creating life” and “if the Bible is accurate, then man! Why did Eve bite into that apple?!!” because there is so much suffering involved! Ernest had left but returned at midnight. As she grabbed on to various things, he prayed or sang religious songs. She would say that she was going to die, and then Ernest would snap back in pidgin, “you se wetti!! You no die!” It was quite funny in retrospect. He turned to me a couple of times and said, “Franck may be right”. A few nights ago, Franck had dreamt that Smith would be born at 1h45 AM. It was now after midnight and Unity was getting so tired that she started to doze off in between contractions. Then finally she called the doctor.

The two of us walked into the labor room and closed the door. “You want to have the baby?” the doctor asked very calmly in French..”Okay, get on the table.” Unity changed her mind and refused a couple of times before I obliged her. As sweet and calm as Unity is, that night she was the most stubborn woman I had ever seen. I was curious and nervous, but mostly all I felt was the fear and pain radiating from Unity. The doctor confirmed that she was definitely dialated enough, and told me to stand where I could see her break Unity’s water. Then she asked for Unity’s baby bag which I ran to the other room to get. While the doctor prepped the room, Unity screamed that the baby would come without her. But finally, as I held her arm and she almost ripped my shirt off, she let out a frightful and wrenching yell as she pushed. I reminded myself to stay calm as a dark blue thing started to come out. He wasn’t moving at the ambilical chord was wrapped around his neck. Without telling Unity, I looked up at the clock and prayed. It read exactly 1h45. The doctor gently unwrapped the chord and the rest of the baby came out, blue and white and crying. She layed Smith on Unity’s stomach as she cut the chord, and I tried to grab his head that was hanging off the side of her tummy, but she told me not to, that he would not fall. “You’re free, Unity!! Smith is here!!” I told her. With a look, she told me, “Never again.” Smith weighed over 4 kilos- he is so big, they say because he eats a lot like me! After bundling him up, he handed him to me. He was still blue, and I noticed his big lips. I could already tell that his eyes were like Unity’s. I had asked what would happen with the chord, and when the time came, she pressed down on Unity’s stomach and the placenta came out. I won’t describe the details but I will say that it weighed a good kilo. That was Smith’s house for the past 9 months and 4 days, I thought. Every vitamin, every touch, every voice, was transmitted through this bubble he was in. But now Smith had come into the world, and I was happy and relieved to finally be so close to him. I introduced him to his father outside the room as they walked Unity to another bed, and as we walked down the hall way, I told him in French, “You’re the one we’ve been waiting so long for!”

I couldn’t sleep that night, I think partly because of the adrenaline that was within me and partly because I was traumatized by the event. After talking to Angel, who had happened to call just as we were in the delivery room, and my mom, all I wanted to do was watch Smith.. He cried most of the night because he was already hungry.

Amazing, weird, gross… there are so many words I could use to describe it. “Would you do it?” a few people have asked me since; my answer is “Absolutely”. When the man of my life is there beside me, willing to hold me and be there undoubtedly for us, I will experience the creation of life. They say that you forget once you’ve got the baby in your arms. Well, there is no way I can forget that night, but I know that it does something to me when I hold him, and if it feels anything like this, I will deem my going through it all worth it. Yeah, I still want one!